“An abuser will ask the victim to start anew, while acknowledging neither the damage done nor the shifting ground on which the change is meant to occur. The request comes on false pretenses, with self-serving ill intent. It should not be trusted. It is a continued attempt to inflict harm.”
I actually love the ungrateful millennial trope, because I went to the V&A today and took a lot of photos of statues’ butts, and it tired me out, so I went to the café and had a cup of tea. In the V&A café, there’s a piano that customers can just use without asking, and a man sat down at it and started to play. I know nothing about music, but it sounded great to me.
At the table next to me was an old couple, probably in their late 60s, and the man kept tutting and sighing as the chap played, and I heard him mutter to his wife, “this is a [insert musty dead white composer here], there should be more MELODY,” and he just kept griping.
Now, to me, an ignorant and uncultured millennial, it just seemed super cool that we were essentially getting a free piano accompaniment to our Earl Grey, and so I stayed a while to listen, because this guy had some balls getting up there to play in front of us all, and I wanted him to feel appreciated. I also live tweeted it, and the old man kept glaring at me for being on the phone. I kid you not.
When he was done, we all (including the grumpy old man) applauded for him, and he looked really surprised. I thought I’d let him know how much I loved it, because I have terrible social anxiety and am trying to get out of my shell a bit, so I approached him and said “I know nothing about music, but I really enjoyed hearing you play,” and he BEAMED.
Turns out that he’s a concert pianist over from Toronto and we essentially got treated to a free preview of his concert tomorrow night. We chatted for a bit and then I left, and the old couple still looked really grouchy.
But hey. Ungrateful millennials!!
Trust me. Millennials have been so deprived, you can give them a free napkin and they will cry. Old people have been so spoiled that you can literally give them a free symphony and they will bitch about it. Nothing satisfies old people.
Yeah well perhaps they should have figured out what a border is first. Because their parents broke the law by Crossing ours and better than spend the time in these facilities than a prison with grown adults who made the human traffickers not even their parents
Actually, let me enlighten you.
These people in detention have not committed a crime. - I don’t mean that in a moral or a figurative sense. I mean literally. It is NOT a crime to ask for asylum. - These people didn’t jump a fence, they didn’t sneak into the backyard. They are knocking on the front door and saying “People are trying to kill me in my home country, will you let me in?” - Now, I didn’t fall off the turnip truck. Some of these people are lying. That’s why you have a hearing. And because they might wander off, these people are held in detention until the hearing. - This hearing is NOT in a criminal court. It’s in an immigration court. Because these people have not committed a crime. - Immigration court is not like criminal court. You don’t have a right to an attorney. - So these people are waiting around, separated from their children, with no attorney, until they get a hearing. - In 2015, the median wait for an immigration hearing was 404 days. - Here’s where it gets even more twisted. If people plead guilty to asylum fraud, they get their kids back and get deported. - So these people knock on the front door, which is perfectly legal, and we take their kids, and tell them the quickest way to get the kids back is to confess to fraud. - If someone committed a crime (ie. shoplifting, armed robbery, murder) and you took their kids away to make them confess, that confession would be thrown out. - But these confessions are lawful, because this isn’t criminal court. - Because these people haven’t committed a crime. - Now some people think that if we make it so unpleasant for these people, they will stop trying to cross the border. - But the message this sends isn’t “Go Home.” The message it sends is “Sneak in.” - If they go home, they think they will be murdered. If they request asylum, they are separated from their children. - If they sneak in successfully, they’re safe. If they sneak in and get caught, they are no worse off than if they sought asylum legally. - And remember, these people haven’t committed a crime.
…also, putting kids in cages because of what their parents have done is utterly fucked regardless
“If you’re a fascist and anti-fascists come for you, you have a choice. You can give it up. You can go renounce what you said. You could just go on with the rest of your life and stop turning up at fascist rallies. Anti-fascists probably aren’t gonna buy you a pint and be your best friend, but they’ll move on. But if you’re a person of color, if you’re trans, or a person with a disability, or gay, or Jewish, and fascists come for you, there is nothing you can do that can make them happy, except stop existing. That’s the key difference between the far left and the far right. Anti-fascists organize themselves against those that are building fascism. If you’re doing that, that is something you can non-violently stop doing. If you’re a political enemy of antifa, you can become a friend. If you’re a political enemy of fascism, though, either they lose or you die.”
As some of you have noticed, I participated in a few conventions recently where I sold my own artwork. Well, i’m making available my leftover issues of first print of my own self published comic book for sale to you fans online!
I have four copies available, which I will autograph and ship to your address for $5 plus the cost of shipping.
However,
as these comic books will be rare first prints, and will have
additional extra traits for them like not having any advertisements and
some extra minor content marking them as a first print of my first ever
proper published work, these are kind of significant collectibles when
it comes to my art. So I’m willing to resort to auction methods if more than four people would like to buy them.
I
would also be fine with selling other leftover merchandise from my
convention, and possibly even digital copies of my comic book, however
not until I have these four books sold.
“Abusive men come in every personality type, arise from good childhoods and bad ones, are macho men or gentle, “liberated” men. No psychological test can distinguish an abusive man from a respectful one. Abusiveness is not a product of a man’s emotional injuries or of deficits in his skills. In reality, abuse springs from a man’s early cultural training, his key male role models, and his peer influences. In other words, abuse is a problem of values, not of psychology. When someone challenges an abuser’s attitudes and beliefs, he tends to reveal the contemptuous and insulting personality that normally stays hidden, reserved for private attacks on his partner. An abuser tries to keep everybody—his partner, his therapist, his friends and relatives—focused on how he feels, so that they won’t focus on how he thinks, perhaps because on some level he is aware that if you grasp the true nature of his problem, you will begin to escape his domination.”
— Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
